Can You Answer Three Questions asked by Leo Tolstoy?

Tolstoy’s Three Questions:

  1. How to tell the right time for every deed?
  2. How to know who are the most essential people?
  3. How to decide which pursuits are the most important?

Please take a moment to ponder your answers before you read Tolstoy’s answers at the bottom of this post.

  • How did you do?
  • Who are you with now? (or who will you be with today?)
  • How can you do good to that person(s) now?
  • What has been “stirred in you” as you have pondered Tolstoy’s questions?

Leo Tolstoy, 1828-1910 – was a Russian writer who is regarded as one of the greatest authors of all time. Born to an aristocratic Russian family in 1828, he is best known for the novels War and Peace (1869) and Anna Karenina (1877).

Tolstoy’s Three Answers:

  1. The most important time is “Now.”
  2. The most important person is “The one you are with.”
  3. The most important pursuit is “To do good to that person.”
Bob Tiede


Bob has been on the staff of Cru for 52 years. He currently serves on the U.S. Leadership Development Team and is passionate about seeing leaders grow and multiply their effectiveness. Bob and his wife, Sherry, live in Plano, TX and are blessed with 4 incredible children and 8 remarkable grandchildren.


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3 thoughts on “Can You Answer Three Questions asked by Leo Tolstoy?

  1. Niranjan Moses says:

    My wife was with me in reading this, good questions and answers….

    Bob Tiede

    So Moses, what are you doing to “do good” for your wife today?

  2. John Wodka says:

    Good questions, Bob. Tolstoy is a complex man. A Christian, no doubt, but very different from the modern Christian. fyi. Starting a new new leadership website on May 1. Essentially, it’s about finding the benefits in failure, and what to do next. Blessing, Bob.

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