Study Reveals A Conversation Trick That Motivates People To Change Their Behavior

Guest Post by Amy Morin

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Whether you want your New Year’s resolution to actually stick this year, or you want your team to do something different, behavior change can be hard. Although there are lots of theories about what really motivates people to create long-lasting change, new research shows the secret might be simpler than you think.

The Question-Behavior Effect

A study, published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology, says asking the right question is the key to behavior change. Coined the “question-behavior effect,” researchers found that asking a question about future behavior speeds up an individual’s readiness for change.

So rather than tell someone–or yourself–that it’s important to invest in a retirement fund, for example, ask, “Are you going to set aside money for retirement?” That question offers a gentle reminder that investing is important and it causes some slight discomfort to someone who isn’t saving any money.

That discomfort is what motivates people to change. When an individual isn’t exhibiting a healthy behavior, the question serves as a reminder of their choices.

Researchers found that questioning effectively produces consistent and significant change across a wide variety of behaviors. Direct questions influenced people to cheat less and exercise, volunteer, and recycle more.

The key is to ask a question that forces people to choose a definitive yes or no answer. Interestingly, researchers found the question-behavior effect was most effective when the questions were administered via a computer or a paper-and-pencil survey.

Why It Works

There are several theories about why the question-behavior effect works. I suspect it has to do with cognitive dissonance.

Cognitive dissonance is when your ideal self doesn’t match up with your real self. So while you may want to be a healthy person, your behavior may not be in line with what a fit, healthy person does. So, when someone asks if you are going to exercise regularly, saying no would cause a lot of discomfort.

To ease your discomfort, you’re likely to say yes. Then, your prediction that you’re going to exercise can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Answering a yes or no question–especially on a computer or via pen and paper–doesn’t allow for clarification. While you may want to explain, “I plan to start exercising next month,” or, “I will go to the gym once my schedule allows,” a yes or no question doesn’t give any wiggle room. You’ll need to commit one way or the other.

How It Can Be Used

The question-behavior effect could be useful in a lot of different circumstances. Here are a few examples:

  • Use it on yourself. Ask yourself a clear yes or no question about an area where you’re struggling to stay motivated. You might find that forcing yourself to give a yes or no answer will give you an extra boost in motivation.
  • Influence someone else. If your employees have started showing up late for work, send out an email survey that asks, “Are you going to start showing up for work on time?” Or, ask your spouse, “Are you going to do several hours of work at home every single night?” Raising someone else’s awareness of their behavior with gentle confrontation can lead to behavior change.
  • Companies can use it in marketing. Advertisements that ask questions like, “Will this be the year you finally reward yourself for your hard work?” may convince people to buy their products.
  • Public service campaigns. Whether a person is asked, “Are you going to vote this year?” or, “Are you going to get your flu vaccine?” questions can cause someone to consider their values head-on. Rather than rehash the benefits or the dangers–which most people already know–ask a question that will help people examine their choices.

The next time you’re tempted to make excuses for your behavior or lecture someone else about what they should do differently, try asking a yes or no question. You might find it’s the simplest, yet most effective way to elicit long-lasting behavior change.

Amy Morin


Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, keynote speaker, and the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, a bestselling book that is being translated into more than 20 languages.  You can connect with Amy


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