Note from Bob:   Today it is my privilege to introduce you to my oldest Grandson – Tommy Tiede (turned 16 yesterday).  Earlier this summer Tommy wanted to make some “Ca$h” – so I offered him $20 per book if he would read and do a one page report on “What I learned” and “How I can use this in my life right now!”  He accepted my offer and went to work!  He just turned in his first book report on “Leading With Questions”  by Michael Marquardt and I am delighted to share it with you:

Tommy Tiede’s Book Report on “Leading With Questions”

I thought that to be a leader you have to be strict, order people to do stuff, fire people for making mistakes and you have to demand people to turn in things the way you want it because I thought leading a company would be a huge responsibility that you have to take control.

But… what I thought was really WRONG.

I learned that leaders lead with questions not demands. I have learned that questions can lead to responsibility that is shared. And when responsibility is shared, problems are shared (problems that are not mine or yours, but ours) , and the ownership of results is shared. I learned that questions cause us to think and to learn.

The way that I thought that leaders should lead can cause serious harm, by not asking questions, ESPECIALLY when your staff is not asking questions from fear.

Fear inhibits them from asking questions.

The main reason of why your staff may not ask questions even though you are leading the right way is because they could avoid questions out of a natural desire to protect themselves.

The antidote to fear is, of course, COURAGE. Courage is an act, not a thought. Rather than telling people what to do, the leader must have courage to ask them what needs to be done and then make a serious attempt to remove any obstacles in the way.

The right way to lead is by asking questions, for instance:

  • “What are a few options for improvements?”
  • “How do you feel about this project thus far?”

When leaders question, they show respect. Listening, caring, and responding to the question. Use steady eye contact and supportive nods; watch out with your facial expressions, gestures, and vague comments.

I have truly learned a whole lot from this book on how to lead with questions. I can use of what I learned from “Leading With Questions” right now is to start  learning more about how to be a better leader so that when I get older and have a job, I could be a leader and be a great one!

Tiede_Tommy_82 (1)Tommy Tiede is a High School Sophomore in Plano, Texas and an avid Lacrosse Player!  And as of yesterday he is one of Texas’s newest licensed drivers!


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6 thoughts on “Tommy Tiede’s Book Report on “Leading With Questions”

  1. Marilyn says:

    This was a truly good read Tommy! Thank you for sharing all that you learned!

    1. John Marcello says:
  2. Paul Cheese says:

    That’s really great insight and application, Tommy – thanks for sharing it (and congratulations on the driver’s licence!)

  3. Kevin Paylow says:

    Good first report, Tommy. Keep it going.

    Do you think leadership only applies when you’re older and working? Are you – or can you be – a leader now, even if you’re not in charge? How can you use what you learned in the book today?

  4. Michael says:

    Tommy, GREAT synopsis! I hope you continue to read and write. When I read Marquardt’s statement, “the antidote to fear is… courage” I immediately recalled 1 John 4:18. In that verse John asserts that “perfect love casts out fear.” I have been pondering the connection between fear, love, and courage. What role do you think love plays in conquering fear? Did Marquardt miss something? Am I missing something? 🙂

    Keep up the good work and congrats on the driver’s license!

  5. Tommy Tiede says:

    Thank you, everyone, for your comments. I enjoyed working on this project for my Grandpa.

    Kevin, I think that being a leader applies anytime. I can use what I learned from this book right now in school or lacrosse by asking the right questions. I will gain experience as I continue to ask.

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