Most leaders share a desire to make an impact. Steve Jobs famously said, “I want to put a dent in the universe” (Isaacson’s biography). Impact is a powerful motivator: We are motivated into action by thinking about the impact we want to have.
I have a question to help you harness that motivation to make changes that have been eluding you and get to a point of resolve on decisions you have been postponing. But it is probably not the question you would expect.
As a leadership coach, I ask questions to learn what problems and obstacles leaders perceive in their organizations. Inevitably, they let out a deep sigh before answering. The sigh is a powerful indicator that they do not see the problem changing or going away. It could be a sigh of frustration (indicating that they have worked hard to make a change but have been blocked). More often it is a sigh of resignation (indicating that they no longer hope for or expect change). In either case, the sigh is a sign of being stuck—there is no motivation left.
This is a good time to ask the impact question. The impact question is not, “What kind of impact do you want to have.” People who have lost hope and motivation are often not willing to respond to a positive prompt. Because they have been disillusioned, they are unwilling to expend energy to imagine a positive future or outcome in that situation.
Instead, the impact question takes us further into the problem so that we can see what it is really costing.
When I ask this question, here are the responses I normally get. Eyes widen (with realization). Heads shake (trying to negate how bad it is). Lips verbalize (“Oh, ____!”) The impact question forces us to examine the real impact of the situation. And with that realization come access to new motivational energy and resolve.
It doesn’t matter what the situation is. It could be a problem employee. A stubborn conflict. A financial impasse. A missed goal or deadline. A troubling personal behavior. A procrastinated decision. The impact question blows away fog and shows us the hidden costs of tolerating the situation rather than acting to address it.
Here’s how you could use the impact question:
Consider how the impact question would relate to a change in your health choices (an area where most of us have gotten stuck). Ask yourself: How is my lack of portion control affecting my spouse/children/friends? The impact could be things like setting a negative example to children or being to tired for an evening out or not feeling up to vigorous play or not being around for significant life events.
I’ve seen executives step back up to the plate to deal with tough issues in themselves and in their companies because of the impact question.
Where do you intend to use the impact question?
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I plan on using this impact question w one of my prof coaching clients who would benefit from going deeper into the problem were trying to solve. I’m a fan of great questions and this is a powerful way to begin moving forward. Even if just mentally which is a least a start
Syd sounds like a great plan! Please come back to share how it went.