How do you feel when your director, supervisor or a colleague asks you, “What do you think about ___________?”  

  • Respected?
  • Valued?
  • Affirmed?
  • Appreciated?
  • Esteemed?
  • What else?

How do you think your director, colleagues, those reporting to you, your clients, or customers feel when you ask them “What do you think about __________?”

  • Respected?
  • Valued?
  • Affirmed?
  • Appreciated?
  • Esteemed?
  • What else?

What are the potential benefits for you as the leader when your director, colleagues, those reporting to you, your clients, or customers share what they think about ___________ with you?

  • New insights?
  • Added horsepower?
  • Alignment/joint ownership?
  • Better relationship with you?
  • What else?
What should be your next three questions after you ask, “What do you think”?
  • What else?
  • Tell me more?
  • What else?  (Many times their best input will be their response the third time you ask them, “What else?”)

Your Action Points:

  1. What topic, currently on your plate, would you benefit from knowing what others think?
  2. Who (director, colleagues, those reporting to you, clients/customers) do you need to ask, “What do you think? 
  3. When are you going to ask them? 
Would you please do a special favor for everyone who is reading this blog? Would you please share (write a “comment”) what happened the very next time you ask someone, “What do you think?”  Thank you very much!

So what do you think of today’s blog?


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10 thoughts on “I would love your thoughts on this:

  1. Dr. Bill says:

    Questions are a great way to stimulate people to think. The brain is trained to respond to making an answer for a question.

  2. Thanks Dr. Bill. I am very fascinated by what goes on in the brain when someone says, “I have a question for you!”

  3. Marilyn says:

    If we want to know something, we need to ask. Love these open ended questions that lead to other questions creating a path of thoughts and ideas that otherwise would never be known. I will definately be using these and digging in further after asking, what do you think?

  4. Marilyn you are on your way! It’s not “Rocket Science!” You just have to ask!

  5. Pam Smith says:

    Yesterday I asked a member of my team during a coaching session, “What do you think is the best way the seminary could…….?” The response started with, “Well, this is something that could probably never happen, but………” The idea he shared was God-sized yet in no way out of the question! Just like Bob Tiede says it should work. :o)

  6. James.M.McQuade says:

    The other night I asked “Why?” to one of my cast members. She is one of my highest in seniority cast members and always stays in the background and never really speaks up. I asked her why she never takes the leadership position in the group. Her answer, “I don’t want the group to resent me.”. My only response to her was, they won’t resent you if your doing your best to make the whole better. The following night, she took her stance and stood up for the team. The rest of the team laughed but I told her I appreciated that she said what everyone else was thinking. It takes courage and strength to take the first step.

  7. Jimmy, Thanks for sharing! I love how you lead–how you encourage your cast members–and how you make it safe for them to give input!

  8. Leon Poplawski says:

    This question approach is affecting how I lead and model for small group leaders. We have had some amazing discoveries and greater participation when we try to “keep the puck in play” at least 3x before someone offers an answer. Often our star player, the Holy Spirit, keeps the discovery going long after we leave the ice and put our street shoes on.

  9. Thanks Leon–I love the Hockey word picture! Very Cool!

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