The way you ask the person for their intended outcome communicates something about the conversation you’re about to have.
Consider this question: “What would you like to talk about?”
If you ask me that question, I have all sorts of things I’d like to talk about: sports, the weather, how to fix my car, a new restaurant I found, etc. But that’s not how I want to use our coaching time. Friends talk about whatever is on their minds. But coaching is an intentional conversation that empowers a person to fully live out their calling. Forward movement is not always an important outcome of a friendship conversation.
Contrast that question with this one: “What would you like to work on today?”
What do you see emphasized in this question? That’s right— working on something. We’re not going to just talk about something, we are actually going to achieve a helpful result right now. We are beginning with the end in mind. We are creating a destination and purpose for our conversation, all according to what the coachee finds valuable.
Example Outcome Questions:
Each of the previous questions accomplish several things that are critical to a coaching conversation:
The words “work on,” “meaningful,” and “result” suggest that there will be progress, which contrasts with the lack of hope that the coachee may have been feeling prior to the conversation.
So, the best way to determine the outcome of the conversation is to simply ask the other person these outcome questions.
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