Guest Post by Pam Smith
All of us put up with things that we know if we would just address them head on it would help reduce the feeling of stress and being overwhelmed.
So why do we tolerate things? I think it’s because we believe that we don’t have the time or the energy to take care of things that we position as just annoyances because in the big scheme of things, they aren’t that big. Actually, things that we tolerate might not be big, but they have power. We allow them to keep us from repurposing the negative energy that it takes to keep them in our life into the positive energy that can be used in pursuing our goals. Tolerations are energy drainers and goal preventers.
- They show up in work. Why are you tolerating that pile of papers?
- They show up in your home. Why are you tolerating that leaky faucet…that squeaky door?
- They show up in your habits. Why are you tolerating a work schedule that doesn’t include self-care?
And, here comes a biggie: They show up in your relationships. Why are you tolerating a relationship that pulls life from you? Why are you tolerating the power that a person has over you when you know that there is one necessary conversation you need to initiate? Did you feel an energy drain just by reading the list? So, let me ask you:
- What are you tolerating?
- What would it look like if you were no longer tolerating it?
- What is the one thing you know you need to do to remove this energy drain and when will you do it?
These are also great questions to ask your team:
- What are they tolerating?
- Or what are you as a team tolerating?
Which of your friends would thank you if you forwarded this post to them?